Frequently Asked Questions
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- What is Southern Socials?
- How often do you meet?
- What are the costs?
- How many couples will be at the party?
- What are the ages of most of the couples?
- What if I find myself in an uncomfortable situation?
- Can we visit the club as nonmembers?
- What do you wear to these parties?
- Do we have to be a married couple to join Southern Socials?
- Are our names ever given out?
- Is a club like this legal?
- Is it like going to a big orgy?
- What does the term "Lifestyle" mean?
- Can we be up front about our sexual desires?
- Are we expected to do anything?
- What is the Newcomer Orientation?
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My spouse is just "thinking"
about this lifestyle. How do I talk
him/her into it?
Southern Social is a couples’ swing club. Our parties are designed to bring together couples interested in making friendships that are deeper, more interesting and, likely, more lasting than outside the lifestyle. We can offer a safe, pleasant atmosphere with no obligations or pressures; just a place to meet, talk, dance, and develop whatever level of friendship you want with others. This provides a relaxed situation that is particularly comforting to couples new to the lifestyle. Hotel rooms are available for overnight accommodations, and a party suite if provided for optional late night fun. No one is ever required to do anything other than enjoy themselves socially.
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How often do you meet?
We have a party about once a month in at least one of our locations.
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What are the costs ?
The party fee is normally $40 to $60 per couple and includes Saturday night party and after party. Special events like New Year's Eve or Halloween are slightly higher.
The annual basic membership fee is $30 (according to most state's laws, in order to be considered private , a club must charge a "substantial" fee)
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Note...if you attend 4 or more parties a year, renewal is free.
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How many couples will be at the party?
We normally have about 40 to 80 couples at each
party.
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What are the ages of most of the couples?
Ages vary from 21-up with the average age being
somewhere between 30 and
50.
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What if I find myself in an uncomfortable situation?
If
a couple or a situation makes you feel ill at ease, perhaps it's time to invoke
the rule of "NO, thank
you." You should never feel pressured into doing anything you are not
comfortable doing…you’re at the party to have fun and being coerced is NO
FUN. So if anyone persists, talk to a member of our "Care Team" or Security.
Can we visit the club as nonmembers?
Yes, you may attend our party as nonmembers at ONE event if you have proof
that you are current members of another NASCA (National Association of Swing
Clubs of America) club.
What do you wear to these parties?
We
get everything from jeans to suits (and even some formal wear on New Year's Eve).
For theme parties, most couples dress to match the theme, and almost always
"dress to impress", but dressing to the
theme is not required to attend. Simply dress in
something you feel comfortable in, yet sexy.
Do we have to be a married couple to join Southern Socials?
You are welcome whether you're married, dating, living with your significant other, or going steady. Today's world has changed dramatically from just a few years ago. Marriage is not a condition of belonging. The club is for male/female couples only. both required to show IDs to prove over 21 years of age.
Are our names ever given out?
No! Your name, address and phone number are personal and kept confidential. We never give them out , even to other members, without first getting YOUR permission, and we do NOT sell our mailing lists…EVER!
Is a club like this legal?
YES!!! The United States Constitution
guarantees our right to
Is it like going to a big orgy
during the dance?
NO!! We supply you a place to meet and dance
with other couples
What does the term "Lifestyle" mean?
"Lifestyle" is the politically
correct term for swapping of
Can we be up front about our sexual desires?
Yes, by all means be up-front. It is essential that couples
know up-front what they are getting into, and you could save everyone from a
potentially embarrassing situation later on. More on this topic will be
discussed at the optional Newcomer Orientation.
Are we expected to do anything?
No!! The only things you
must do are sign a Club Agreement form, show an appropriate ID, pay your party &
membership fee, and have a great
time!
My spouse is just "thinking"
about this lifestyle, how do I talk him/her into it? You Don't!! The lifestyle is not for every
couple.
you also would not have a good time. Dragging someone along against their will
is not behavior we tolerate at Southern Socials
A final reminder to very E X P E R I E N C E D Play couples.
Take some time with new couples. A friendly chat over a drink or cup of coffee goes a long way. Remember once upon a time . . .you were new to all this too!
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